August 23, 2008 - Recovery and Spirituality
BREAKTHROUGH ADDICTION RECOVERY HOUR
AUGUST 23, 2008
RECOVERY AND SPIRITUALITY
Jill: Welcome to the Breakthrough Addiction Recovery Hour, my name is Jill Mattingly and I am the Director of Operations for Breakthrough Addiction Recovery in Norcross. This is a radio show about addiction and the things you can do for yourself or someone else when it comes to substance addiction and dependency. When we talk about addiction we talk about all of the different approaches of how someone can recover from that disease. Wheat we like to do is concentrate on all of the different areas that maybe you didn’t know were important to address when you were struggling with dependency on alcohol or another substance. So to talk about one aspect of recovery today, I have asked our mentor in residence, Dr. Lois Dutton to join us today for the show as a co-host, she has joined me quite often and I am glad she decided to come in today and she has a lot to say on the issues of working a spiritual program.
Lois: IT is always good to be here and our audience by now are aware of how you hook me into getting here, you know exactly what to say so that I will show up on a Saturday afternoon to do this show with you.
Jill: Lois comes to us with a Ph.D in education and in the world of addiction addiction treatment for 30 years and she has seen many changes in the addiction field and understands the multi-faceted approach toward treating addiction and that is why she is here. We are talking about a certain slice of the pie when we talk about addiction treatment that many don’t understand is a very important part of addiction addiction treatment and recovery. So, well, later on today I will have Joe Biden stop by on his way back from Illinois, (laugh) I can pull the strings with Lois so maybe Joe?
Lois: Joe is a piece of cake.
Jill: Anyway, I have been following that all morning on every station so I hope you will settle back and stay with us today and what we are going to do is look at what we do at breakthrough Addiction Recovery and then narrow it down to one aspect of approaching your recovery or a loved one’s recovery. At Breakthrough we take the holistic approach meaning, I want you to picture the whole pie, we try to educate and bring people into understanding that treating addiction has many facets and it is not just this is what is going to do it for you and heal you and you will walk away, there are so many things that get a person into dependency right?
Lois: Yes, and at Breakthrough we try to look at all facets of the person’s life because we recognize addiction be it alcohol related or other drugs as being a systemic disease meaning it effects every part of a person’s being and as such we try best we can to build a program and all kinds of groups and support and pieces that will help the individual in their recovery,
Jill: Let’s look at the pie, and if you are just tuning in we are not a cooking show, we are a show on treating addictions and what we look at in treating addictions and helping a person into recovery is that there are slices of this pie that help us to understand where a person is, now, the one slice is addressing the physical needs of the person and that may be medical where they need a medical history and physical and we determine if there are underlying disease processes with craving and problems with substances. Last two shows we did together Lois we spoke about the nutritional deficiencies that lead to dependencies and addictions and of course one we have not covered on this show and that is exercise being a very important part of the physical body overcoming dependencies. The next slice is a psychiatric slice and many struggle with co-occuring disorders or generalize anxiety and these can be diseases that could have been brought about by traumatic events and we also have those that deal with ADD and Bi-polar and these are co-occuring disorders that if remain untreated and unaddressed they can also lead into dependencies and addictions.
Lois: Perpetuation of the addiction
Jill: The other slice is the psychological part we use cognitive behavioral therapy for this and we encourage the individual therapy with licensed providers that help peel back the layers of psychological problems that could be going on and could have been going on for years and no one has put the pieces together as to why a family member drinks a bottle of wine per night so these are very important of treating addiction and that is what Breakthrough concentrates on. There is another slice of the pie that many people it is all they ever concentrate on and if it works, fine, but we want them to know that there are other ways to address the addiction also and this slice is the support slice and we look at that as a group . Support to walk through your recovery and many think of AA, it has been around for many years since the 1930s and has helped people gain support that they need through their group and a sponsor to walk through recovery and has it worked for everyone? No. We know that nothing is fail safe on it’s own but we have seen incredible um, you know ability for someone to walk through recovery when you address many of these different facets of their life.
Lois: When you go back and look at AA as the oldest of the groups, there was a time that when AA was what was available to people and many got sober and remained sober for years by using the principles built into AA those principles for the most part were based on spiritual kinds of um, principles that Bill W. and Bob Smith the founders thought were important and they have been and stood the test of time and many programs have been built around those 12 basic principles of AA.
Jill: The support slice is building that spiritual program so what we come down to is looking at the approach to treating the addiction as treating the mind, body and spirit. We have talked about nutrition, medication and medicine, this program today we are going to start looking at what the spiritual program can be built when it comes to recovery and what we are recognizing is that this is a pluralistic society and there are many ways to reach out for a spiritual connection and many paths that people try and we are going to take a portion of that whole pluralistic society and most is Judeo-Christian and with AA being founded on those principles, we will talk about building that program from the eyes and words of maybe a Christian program. So we will look at that today and we will also have time next week to look at other types of programs that a person can build for themselves also. We are at the end of this segment and I want to remind you that this is a call in show and I know you could be formulating questions or ideas so the number you can call is 770-226-0920 again it is, 770-226-0920. Now if you would like to listen live on the computer www.920wgka.com and hit listen live. Stay with us and we will be back talking about another aspect of the spiritual program and try to get some of these questions answered. Stay with us.Commercial Break
Jill: Welcome back to the Breakthrough Addiction Recovery Hour, my name is Jill Mattingly, 770-226-0920 is the number to call if you would like to ask a question or get in on the conversation once again the number is 770-226-0920. We are talking about building a spiritual program and how you can get through recovery from dependency on alcohol or drugs. We are looking at a spiritual program as it pertains to Christianity and what I want to make sure you understand in the audience is tha tBreakthrough Addiction Recovery we look at the holistic approach to treating addiction and the support slice of the pie and treating addiction is very important and many people look for what will resonate with them in terms of support and in many lives it is a spiritual program that they may find through their church or Sunday school class or pastoral counseling and many do apprioach their pastor or someone in their church about their addiction before even thinking of addiction treatment, right Lois?
Lois: I think that most people um, at least Jill the majority that we see at Breakthorugh come and they are churched people and what I mean by that is that they have some connection with the Christian community and many many times people will approach pastors and leadership as their first line of trying to get a handle on what is going on with them. Um, and part of that we recognize as being uh, a strong uh, weapon if you will or a strong tool in the toolbox because for us recovery is about change and changing the way we think and feel and believe and our expectations of self and others. That is what leads us further along to seeing that if those change we have changed behavior and when you change your behavior you change your life.
Jill: So the spiritual program is important in getting through recovery and so those listening today need to know what is out there and how can they find and help themselves or their family members build a spiritual program. That is what we what to make available to you today and that is to understand that. So, I have a special guest today in the studio today, this is Pastor Jeff Earle, he is the pastor of Grace Christian Fellowship and it is in Acworth, Georgia and thanks for being here. Jeff is well known to us a Breakthrough and has helped us out in the past so, how was your drive to Buckhead?
Jeff: Great,
Jill: What we want is for you to be anther oice as we talk abou thte counseling aspect and from a spiritual prospective for those going through recovery so there are question sthat I have to ask, and you too Lois, how do you build a spiritual program for someone caught up in addiction and trying to recovery.
Lois: Absolutely, I , what we do I think that it is easy sometimes for folks like you and I Jill that have medical backgrounds to concentrate on the body and healing and I think we do an excellent job at Breakthrough and we get to the psychological piece what we try also to do is recognize that very very often the kinds of things that we are dealing with with people in recovery are those deep deep spiritual filled kinds of feelings that folks have that our medication will not touch, that our nutrition will not touch, those are the things that Jeff is about and those are the things that trip people up very very quickly in their recovery program and Jeff and I have had conversations about those kinds of deep issues for which there really aren’t a lot of solutions in a program unless you can dig deep and uproot some of those.
Jill: Jeff what is it like when you take on a person or counselee that has addiction is it difficult?
Jeff: Well, I think that Lois said it perfectly about changing what you believe because many times I have found that people have a false belief system as far as their faith goes and a lot of it is from a lack of self worth and they will start to believe themselves as worthless and unacceptable and that leads to depression and different disorders. I liked your pie analogy with the different slices, of course being a pastor I would like to think that the spiritual part is the filling of the pie and then you have the rest on the outside which is what we see and the spiritual is deep inside. Usually people don’t wear their lack of self esteem or self loathing on their sleeve but it definitely comes out as a demonstration somehow.
Lois: Jeff, when people feel that they have betrayed their own deep seeded personal core values is when these feelings begin to trip them up
Jeff: Right
Jill: Hold on a sec Lois, we have a caller and this is uh, let’s see, Charles in Atlanta, welcome to the show
Charles: Great thanks. Yes, my um comment and question is um, I guess I will have to lay a little foundation before it can be understood but the foundation is that sometimes with the advent of psychology and even what they call Christian counseling which I have had myself, uh, you know the secular influence of psychology and stuff can overtake a spiritual influence from a biblical perspective and they incorporate secular psychology and a lot of times they don’t find any long lasting successful uh, deliverance per se from the addictions and it is my presupposition because from a biblical perspective our self destruction is our own getting into being tempted per se even from you know evil influence on our minds. Then the stronghold drives you deeper into addiction and you start reaping pain and spiritual consequences and and then they find themselves in deep pain emotionally and otherwise and turn to drugs or alcohol or uh, whatever to offset the pain with pleasure and it will work for a while but then
Jill: Charles we are coming to a break and this is interesting as you go down from one step to another and really in that respect you are talking about the slide into dependency which actually can become a physical manifestation and physical disease once the alcohol and drugs incorporate into what the action of the neuro-transmitters and all else and so addiction treatment is important when someone reaches that place.
Lois: We try to make certain that we don’t get an imbalanced perspective when we deal with the holistic person at Breakthrough. We do not allow mind to overshadow the physiological and they are physically sick as a result of the alcohol and the drug addiction nor do we allow the mind part to override and we try to see that everything is balanced.
Charles: That was the foundation and here is the question,
Jill: Hold on and we will get the question and are having a guest call in next segment to talk about another area of help that is available and we will be right back so please stay with us this is getting interesting.
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Jill: Welcome back to the Breakthrough Addiction Recovery Hour, my name is Jill Mattingly, we are discussing recovery and spirituality. We have another interesting caller on the line and this is someone I have asked to call in because I wanted background about a resource out there called, Celebrate Recovery that some of our people seek out to help in the recovery process, this is Mr. Grady Schuman, Grady, how are you?
Grady: Hey Jill,
Jill: What I wanted the audience to hear is a little of information about Celebrate Recovery can you tell us what it is,
Grady: Love to Jill, Celebrate Recovery is an international movement to bring Christ centered recovery to the world. We are not only an organization designed for only alcoholics and addicts but we are also available for anyone with any type of hurt, hang up or habit, now we are Christ centered and we don’t refer to “higher power” because we have one higher power and that is Jesus Christ. Now, um, a surprising thing too is when we first spoke you were under the belief we were just for alcohol and addict recovery based program but that is so far from the truth, that is an intrical part of what we do, however, 70% of the people who come through our movement are not just alcoholics and addicts, they are people with any hurt, hang up or habit and what I like to say is that if you don’t have one of these you are probably dead. (laughter) And if you are not sure if you have any we will help you find some.
Jill: Tell me how you can find a Celebrate Recovery group as part of your journey in recovery,.
Grady: Go to the Celebrate Recovery Website www.celebraterecovery.com and also at the Atlanta Vineyard Church that is 6920 Jimmy Carter Blvd., Norcross, 30071. Every Thursday night we are there from 7pm and last until 9pm. We are there every week we don’t ever take off. We are always there,Jill: Problems don’t take holidays. Where did Celebrate Recovery begin?
Grady: What an interesting time to speak of it. For those who watched the Saddleback forum in politics, that church is where it began with Rick Warren. It was started in 1991 by Rick who wrote the Purpose Driven Life and John Walker and in that church alone out of that one church over 7000 people have gone through this program. Success is just tremendous.
Jill: Grady I thank you so much for calling us and giving us another interesting resource, I think that a lot of people don’t know there is something like this out there to help not only with addictions but with life problems, so we really do appreciate it and I hope you have a wonderful day and thanks again for calling in. Jeff, in just talking about the resources, when people do come to you and are talking about you know how they are struggling with alcohol and I feel like I can’t talk to anyone else about this, what is the first thing that you start with as a pastor
Jeff: Usually we start with a, well, going back again to formation of beliefs to come to a place where you understand that you are loved that God does love you and find you acceptable through Christ that you know, we talked a bit about self-worth and the saying is that something is worth what someone else will [pay for it and from a Christian perspective we have been bought with a price and so we can always look at this as this is who I truly am and God dictates what I am worth. So this way you know that you are not a hopeless loser, you are a beloved child of God as a believer in Christ.
Jill: So this is something someone could find in their own church and go to a pastor or lay leader and ask for help with this type of need.
Lois: Many churches have their own counseling centers that are Christ centered and are there and reach out to not only members of their own denomination but the community, and uh, explore the spiritual need that they have and the spiritual hurt.
Jill: Looks like we are at another break so what I would like to do is give the number 770-226-0920 and if you uh, want to call and comment or ask a question we would love to hear from you, so stay with us we will be right back.
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Jill: We are back and the number is 770-226-0920, Breakthrough Addiction Recovery Hour, and we are talking about approaches to helping a person or yourself in recovery we have been talking about the perverbial addiction or addiction addiction treatment pie and this is not a cooking show as I stated earlier but the pie has segments of or facets that need to be addressed the physical, the psychiatric, the psychological and the support and we haven’t even gotten to the family slice of the pie and we do that many times in this show about helping families address dependencies and addictions in their family and how it effects the family as a whole but also the family can act as a support system for the person going through an addiction, when we came down to it we started talking about the support slice and how building a spiritual program can many times address a very big part of how a person can get through recovery and stay in recovery and so we have asked Pastor Jeff Earle today and Dr. Lois Dutton is also my co-host. We have been talking about how you build a spiritual program in recovery and for many people there are many different views and today we are coming from a Judeo Christian viewpoint and so Lois at the break we spoke of pain and when someone is in pain they are much likely to seek out and that may be could be through someone in the church or a pastor you know uh, talk about how that may happen like hypothetical situation.
Lois: Many times what we see in this whole beginning to recognize the throws of addiction that people start down this journey as a result um, the pain that the addiction has caused in their lives and it is not only the physical and the psychological but the pain they feel deep inside in their spirit and that is generally in all of my years of experience is what I see being the most likely catapult into addiction treatment is when they are hurting enough spiritually inside and negated so many important relationship like family and those with friends with that basic basic support system and they really are needing a kind of conversation that will help them heal and they will very often turn to their church and when they do they will go to the pastor or to a leader in the church or some friend and um, those that’s usually the first step.
Jeff: What I have found is that a lot of times it can work the opposite. Some will feel as if they don’t want the pastor to know and then he will have a dim view of them that he might well, so many times there is a performance based track and we put up the mask and the appearance of everything being right and although there is spiritual and psychological pain no one will ever know. And so the last thing they want to do is reveal it to the church so they hide it which causes it to magnify even more inside because then they become hopeless, they ask where to go or where to turn
Jill: Would you tell someone to talk to their pastor?
Jeff: Well yes, in certain cases
Jill: Really, because some come into our program that are like not wanting anyone to know what they are struggling with and for many people I will tell them that they are here and they are getting their addiction treatment needs addressed, but it is interesting that that could weigh on them if they don’t get into a truthful situation with someone.
Jeff: A lot of times it is driven by a, for a lack of better words, a lack of trust in the pastor, they are afraid and don’t think they can reveal this thing that is going on inside of them because of the appearances and they don’t trust him enough to lovingly embrace them and say I understand and let’s find a solution and correct your belief processes that have brought you here.
Lois: It really does Jeff, it goes back to what you said of them having bruised and battered self image and the sense of self worth that it is difficult to open your heart and lay it out for scrutiny um, even by the people who are in the strongest spiritual positions in our lives like the pastors and counselors and like our family members. It is very difficult to open up, it is easier to have Jill look at my liver enzymes because those are factual kinds of things I can have excuses for but if I come to you and speak of my shame and degradation that I feel and the remorse and the regret and how nobody could possibly love me because I don’t like who I am, I have violated everything that is important to me my sense of integrity and character all of those deep inside me for which our psychiatrist is not going to have a prescription for but the prescription is going to lie in the way that I handle that deep hurt and that would be coming to someone like you Jeff that I know will not judge me and not condemn me,
Jill: Well that is a wonderful way to put it Lois, I think I understand now, you know what someone is dealing with on the inside, there are so many things not just to heal the liver but heal what the spirit is going through too. That is one of the reasons we have found that this is a complex situation cause there are so many ideas and thoughts about a spiritual program and today we are looking at this from the Judeo Christian aspect and I hope that you are getting something out of this and when we come back we will have a few more questions for Pastor Jeff and let him go back to Acworth. Stay with us, 770-226-0920 we will be right back.
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Jill: 770-226-0920,. The number to call we are at our last segment, and during this segment, if you want more information on Breakthrough Addiction Recovery the website is www.breakthroughaddictionrecovery.com you can call for a free consultation and speak about possibly an alcohol dependency or a drug dependency uh, this consultation is free and you talk with some very wise and uh, nice people, and we talk through the problem and try to find out what the perfect addiction treatment fit is for you. That holistic approach is very important. So call 770-734-8091 and we will set you up. Now, we have been talking about the building of a spiritual program for helping in recovery and helping to get through an alcohol dependency and drug addiction and this is complex because there are many approaches out there we are talking from Judeo Christian today and next week when Brian takes the helm he will talk about the AA approach and building the program through AA and other different types of ways of looking at that but I hope you have enjoyed listening to Dr. Dutton and Jeff Earle talking about why the spiritual program is such an important slice of the pie.Lois: Yes, absolutely, Jill most of the time when people come to Breakthrough they come to Breakthrough because of that deep hurt and that is the first thing that let’s us know that people are willing to consider doing whatever it takes to get rid of or to change and part of what we do is to give them the kinds of knowledge and the tools they need to start making some of those changes that will address that deep hurt down inside of them. The response to that hurt that deep spiritual hurt in my opinion and my clinical judgment is the response of what we see on the surface and that is depression and anxiety and those kinds of things for which we have medication and what we have talked about the last weeks we have nutrition but we are only treating symptomatically because the kinds of things that trip people up and um, uh, the kinds of things that are in Jeff’s realm more than mine as a clinician are things for um, for which we don’t have ready solutions. When we talk about the things that really hurt down deep inside those have to be dealt with on I think a spiritual level because that is where they occur.
Jill: I like to look at it as the self medication for those deep down hurts and also the self medication for anxiety and co-occurring problems, and at Breakthrough if someone requests a spiritual approach to helping them you know we want you to know that we will uh, recommend resources in the community your church if that is something that you want to pursue. Sometimes Jeff is called on and he is a wonderful pastoral counselor and I think that you have really made a difference in people’s lives by being available to those struggling.
Jeff: Thanks
Jill: I want to say um, with such a complex issue as this there is a lot of emotion and passion that surrounds this I think it is just going to have to be looked at and then you start to find the person that can help you build that program and it doesn’t have to be a cookie cutter approach,
Lois: That is one of the things that sets Breakthrough apart, as each person comes in we don’t give everyone the same pill and tell them to sin no more kind of thing, we try to take the time to really pick apart what the person needs and we have a whole year of a program and our aftercare program is around for a year and we don’t make any promises to people and we just can not do that and we have learned that is not the way to approach people.
Jill: I have seen amazing response to that approach for the time I have been at Breakthrough. So, we tried to tackle it Lois, we tried building the spiritual program and you can always call us in Norcross at 770-734-8091, check the website. We will be back next week.
